Physical---look to check growth attributes.
Emotional---look and listen.
Spiritual---compare words with actions.
Reminder still needed to please God, not man. (1 Thessalonians 2:4)
He sees beyond our actions into the motives of our hearts.
We "see" it in our own lives if despair/depression keeps knocking at the door of our mind.
If we compare, we despair. It's up to us to transfer our minds to embrace God's good, pleasing and perfect, will/purpose for our lives.
Paul David Tripp sums it up well. "There is nothing for which we can take credit. All praise, honor, worship, and service go to God and God alone. He sought us. He birthed us. He sustains us. He matures us." (New Morning Mercies, September 24)
That's what maturity looks like......from the inside out!