AFTERMATH

6/23/11 Adrenaline gone. Head glued to pillow---feeling wasted, tired and unenthusiastic about getting out of bed. Need grief guidance.

No coherent thoughts for blogging----but God……gave me 2 quick answers when I logged on.

#1 The Hasslens who lost their daughter Hannah (11/10) have a blog and the entry that popped up was (6/20/11, the day of Daddy’s funeral) The caption was “Comfort for the Bereaved.” These 2 excerpts from Fran Dorf stood out to me: Banish the word “closure” from your vocabulary. There is no such thing, and who would want it anyway? We incorporate our losses into our lives. (I guess sometimes that just takes time.) Don’t have expectations. Don’t compare one grief to another. Remember that grief may take years to work through. (Because of work commitments, I felt I couldn’t allow myself to begin really grieving for Mother until about 9 months after her death. I knew it would be so intense that I couldn’t grieve, care for an ailing hubby & work all at the same time.) Be prepared for tears, moaning, sighing, wailing, trembling, even screaming. (I haven’t been prepared for the way the sadness sometimes sneaks up on me or the feelings that have me frustrated with loved ones.)

#2 Today’s GodTube devotional gave scriptures pertinent for hope and comfort for one with an aging dad who is dying to live. “He’s not struggling to die. Dad is dying to live with God forever!”

When I can’t express it, God sends others with the words that help with the “aftermath” of burying Daddy.