Saturday, November 21, 2009

Aunt Ada

11/21/09 Not biblical but it does start with “A” and my great Aunt Ada was a positive influence in my life---a real part of my spiritual heritage. She accepted me as I was and I loved her dearly.

This “assigned” piece was one that I wrote when attending the Governor’s Writing Academy in 1992. I sat under the tutelage of Harvard’s, Dr. Richard Marius. What an experience! We were to write about something unique to us and naturally I started with A. Subsequent pieces were titles with “B” and “C”----but then you already guessed that, I’m sure.

I’m including this on the blog partly for my children and grandchildren. This true story was eventually published and I just came across a tattered copy. Not big time publishing but its appearance in the “Kentucky New Era” gave Mother bragging rights at “The Tuesday Club” (bridge) for an entire summer.

Avocado Summer
Richard Marius said it well, “thoughts come from associations.” Since I spend a great deal of time eating, many of my thoughts are naturally food-related. Take for example, an avocado, that pear-shaped fruit from California. In the 90’s, Angie Dickinson promoted them and promoted them well, but no one personally promoted them for me as effectively as my great Aunt Ada did the summer of 1954.

The days were long and the afternoons were especially hot that summer. My only respite would come on Tuesday afternoons when at the age of 7, almost 8, I would walk, unaccompanied, down the sidewalk past the Southalls, and across Alumni Avenue until I came to 2113 South Virginia Street.

As I reached the front porch, Aunt Ada would open wide the big, wooden screen door and in a gentle embrace remind me to be quiet so that I wouldn’t awaken Mr. Mabry who was napping in his chair. (He was Uncle Mabry to me but she always called him Mr. Mabry.) Following her through the house I would make my way to the kitchen.

There the two of us would begin the ritual of slicing a large, perfectly ripened avocado, removing the large wooden looking seed and exposing the soft, yellow pulp with the green edges. Each half would be placed on a fine bone china plate ringed with delicate pink flowers. These plates were then placed on the carrying tray that had been laid with a linen cloth. (Aunt Ada always “laid” linen and tea.) I would then be given the honor of drizzling our delicacies, ever so lightly, with oil.

When I finished my part of the ritual, Aunt Ada would remove her organdy apron and place a spoon---her Louisiana sterling ones---on each of our plates. We would then carry them to the back porch where both our iced water with a twist of lemon and a linen napkin with the drawn hemstitched border would be waiting on the small, round metal table. She would add our plates to that arrangement, straighten our stemmed crystal glasses and then we would both sit down on the big white painted glider.

After we were seated, she would pull the table up between us and most of the time would commence our little teatime extolling the virtues of the avocado---for the way it looked and tasted, for its vitamin content and for all the things it was going to do for my skin. Other than that, very little was said but much was felt. That summer I acquired a life long love of avocados.

Sweet story, nice ending. Right? Wrong! The FDA, the National Health Council, author of the T-factor diet as well as my own doctor have told me that “at my age” I have to cut back on my fat intake. Thirty grams of fat a day is the “max” they say. Well, that stinks! One avocado has thirty-two grams of fat.

Here it is summer and the only good thing that this Memphis heat does for me is conjure up those fond memories of Aunt Ada and her avocados---the ones drizzled with oil, no less. So, what is one to do? How does one resolve the dilemma without tarnishing a memory or getting fat? Do I allow visions of fat grams to negate the treasured recollections of those summer afternoons in Kentucky? Do I give up the memory of that time when eating an avocado on a back porch with a much loved great aunt had been such a pleasant thing to do?

Aunt Ada is probably “up there” smiling down on me saying, “Let her eat fat; it will make her skin glow.” So, as an act of rebellion against the “powers that be” and as a tribute to on little old lady’s love of avocados, I made Ellen's avocado dip using twelve avocados. I ate the whole thing! After all, Aunt Ada lived a slim and trim life for 89 years---feasting all the while on avocados. Even as they closed the coffin everyone still marveled at the glow of her skin.
Today as I recall that event, I’m grateful for a childless aunt who took me under her wing and always treated me like a young lady---what acceptance. Serving water to a 7 year-old in a crystal goblet. Imagine that! Her silver flatware was a gift from her Aunt Anna Barr, aka "Stockade Annie" & Uncle Mabry’s sister. The silver was a gift to Mrs. Barr as a welcoming gift from the congregation of the parish in Louisiana her young husband, John Barr, was called to pastor. That silver is now mine and I think I’ll get it out this week and treat my grand boys to a tea party---but we’ll use sippy cups instead of crystal---for a few more years, at least. I might even add some avocado because my skin is so dry and drawn from 4 surgeries that I could use a little oil. I could certainly use the "glow." Maybe I'll just rub it on my face!

Do you feel accepted in the beloved? Accepted by the brethren? Do you accept all of those God ordains to cross your path?

Accept one another, then just as Christ accepted you in order to bring praise to God. (Romans 15:7)

A is for ACCEPTANCE. He is our “Acceptor.” (bill of exchange)

Thursday, November 19, 2009

ANSWERS………..

11/19/09…………….to your questions.
How are you feeling?
Today--the answer is tired.
After the 4th & last surgery—the answer was relief. (a favorite emotion of mine)
Why no more surgeries? Two more would be required to give just 10% improvement in the nose/mouth area. Larry and I didn’t even need time for that decision. Enough is enough. I’m in my 6th decade and being put to sleep can take it’s toll, not to mention lots of sick days. Eventually I would end up in sick bank and I think those days need to go to those in critical need.
What’s ahead?
This week—rest, appointment with Memphis doc and continuing hassle trying to schedule with infectious disease.
Next week—family comes for Thanksgiving to cook & care for me---YEA!!
Next year---??? I do hope to get new glasses---my eyesight has changed
Biggest surprise? Dr. Saporito saying he needed to Biopsy my new ”too suspicious” spot. MRSA diagnosis was a close 2nd—didn’t know what it was---still not sure of appropriate regimen for me because I can’t get in to see the doctor.
Biggest challenge? My MAC-muddled mind!
Biggest blessing? That prayers continued from around the world---BFA in Germany, Holland, France, India, Mexico, and all over the good ole USA---folks didn’t quit praying.
First soft food?---Mary Flo’s mashed potatoes
Biggest disappointment?—Still haven’t gotten to meet Kari S. from Park Cities Pres. who was instrumental in introducing us to the Ridleys. I’ll be forever grateful.
How do you really feel about your face? Grateful to have one that is pretty recognizable---though the crooked smile still takes some getting used to.
Life lesson learned? So many---I just need to remember them and not resort to “my” status quo of self-reliance, self- protection----just too much self in general.

The answer to all of life’s questions is God. We serve an awesome God.
Remember the praise chorus:
Our God is an awesome God.
He reigns from heaven above,
With wisdom, power and love.
Our God is an awesome God.
Cole’s summer sermon reminded me that “the Bible is not the answer book. The Bible introduces us to the ANSWERER!!”

A is for...... our ANSWERER!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Associations and Alphabetical Offerings

11/18/09 All the years that I was in the field of early childhood, I color coded everything, at work and at home----right down to laundry baskets, hangars and tooth brushes. I took some of that with me to the library and for years all receipts of book orders with barcode ranges were filed in a certain red notebook type folder. (Red = receipts w/ ranges.) When that red folder was no longer available and I had to use a green one, I still labeled the spine in bold red letters declaring it the “red folder.” I know you’re probably confused but it works for me. In a recent “Dearest Dorothy” book, her son couldn’t understand why her Christmas stuff was stored in a Del Monte cardboard box. “D” is for Del Monte and “d” is for decorations.” He groaned at her comment but it made perfect sense to me.

There’s just something about the orderliness of alphabetizing things that is intriguing. Being a librarian appeals to that part of me---it’s a semblance of control that I have in an otherwise cluttered life. Canned veggies are arranged from asparagus to zucchini on my pantry shelf. Catchall objects are stored in an old card catalog in my computer room in ABC order---even though sometimes those labeled drawers are empty, i.e. misplaced---not put back by folks who don’t know the importance of this ploy. Those 26 letters have become my association tactics. At this point in life, I need all the help I can get.

Awakening in the middle of the night, I often pray God’s attributes in alphabetical order----praising Him as Almighty, Bestower of Blessings, Creator, Defender, Eternal Elohim, Faithful Father, God of Goodness…..etc. 
All this to say, I plan to focus these next several weeks on one word for each of the 26 letters in the alphabet. Actually, the idea has been “brewing” awhile as I’ve savored my morning “cuppa.” It just seems so orderly. Of course, I could start it tomorrow and then take off on an “A” rabbit trail. Who knows? It took me months to actually write about the qualities of the “fruit of the Spirit,” and there are only 9 of those. Hm-m-m--These are my plans, we’ll see how God directs my steps. (Proverbs 16:9)

But everything should be done in a fitting (properly) and orderly way. (I Corinthians 14:40)

I definitely need to hang my hat here on this verse because this is a problem for me. Reading the preceding paragraphs might have given you a real misconception about my “decently and in order” life. It’s one of my biggest struggles---from sentimental clutter and “just in case clutter” to stacks of flagged books and pages of “blog bite” scribbles and “unanswered e-mails. Compound all of this with retrieval glitches in my MAC-muddled brain and a family and lots of deserving friends---and I’m not even back at work yet! YIKES!

I know I can't eat this “clutter elephant” in one bite but I’m going to work on it one bite at a time, starting with this blog.

A is for attributes of God ???

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Music Prompts

11/17/09
Without Music Life Would B♭---that’s what the t-shirt said in my latest “Wireless” catalog. Flat, indeed. It certainly rings true to me, even though I don’t stay “plugged in” like the teens at Houston High. I don’t even have my new iPod Touch (free) synced with my new iMac (not free) computer yet. Both are sources of frustration that could prompt me to tears.
I don’t always have music playing in the car or at home as many folks do. I do have my new "Tenors’ Christmas" CD playing now because this blog “prompted” me to put it in my iTunes. I also have it as loud as it will go because, in my opinion, opera should be played with VOLUME!

Music is a part of the life of the Lord, creator of all music. His delight in me can prompt Him to sing as well. According to Zephaniah 3:15 The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing.

Music often prompts tears for me. “Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing” is my favorite hymn and it always puts a knot in my throat and, more often than not, tears in my eyes. It was “my” song for seating as “mother of the bride”---so I had a special hanky handy. Special church services often include it as well, so I try to “gear up” but…….but if Peggy catches my eye from the choir loft and smiles, I “puddle.”
Music can prompt tears.

Church seems to turn over the Liles “tickle boxes,” as Daddy labeled my giggling fits of childhood, especially if we’re suppose to be quiet and somber. “Hark the Herald Angels Sing” is my favorite Christmas Carol and that causes no problems--- but let us sing “We Three Kings” and we all tend to fall apart. At least, we look askance at Larry who sings it loud and clear and in his “own key,” ---if there is such. It’s our family thing---an inside joke that happened each year during our Advent time (#3). It was shared with friends and even our Jewish neighbors who had heard about it.
Music can prompt laughter.

Whenever the Temptations “Ain’t Too Proud to Beg” plays, Larry and I dance---regardless of where we are! He thinks I’ll probably try to rise up for one last dance, if he has it played at my funeral.
I also admit to doing a little toe tapping in church whenever I hear, "Lord of the Dance.”
Music can prompt dancing.

Whether on a praise walk or cleaning the house, a little music can help me to pick up the pace. Volume seems to help here as well.
Music can prompt energy.

Larry’s new “cash for clunkers” jeep came with a year’s subscription (free) to Sirius XM satellite radio. I don’t have that feature in my “old lady Cadillac,” so if I don’t have an audio book for travel, I choose his car. That way I can select the "60s on 6" channel and listen to music that I know the words to or can at least “understand” the lyrics.
Singing along favorite hymns or praise choruses brings an element of fellowship that is rich. However, I rarely sing out at church because I don’t have that gift. But I’ll “sing in the shower” or sing along with iTunes. I have numerous versions of “Come Thou Fount” and when I get to verse 3, I can belt it out---it rings so true, ..........................
O to grace how great a debtor
daily I'm constrained to be!
Let thy goodness, like a fetter,
bind my wandering heart to thee.
Prone to wander, Lord, I feel it,
prone to leave the God I love;
here's my heart, O take and seal it,
seal it for thy courts above.
Music can prompt singing along.

Everyone knows that a quiet lullaby can help soothe a baby to sleep, unless his name is Josh Liles. With him, Larry turned the car radio on and drove him around (sometimes at midnight) just so I could sleep. I have friends who keep music going at bedtime to dispel the quiet and ease them into slumber.
Music can prompt rest/sleep.

Music is the international language. I have heard the melody of “Old MacDonald Had a Farm” sung by children at a zoo in Venezuela and recognized it even before the E-I—E-I—Os. I heard Silent Night in German and knew the English version because of years of singing it with my family. Music sticks with us and both melody and lyrics can trigger memories.
Music lingers and prompts our thoughts .

My friend, Carol Newman, sent this e-mail message to me. “The God who created music has songs for resting, songs for dancing, and songs of rejoicing over you!"

The Lord will command His lovingkindness in the daytime;
And His song will be with me in the night,
A prayer to the God of my life." Psalm 42

“His song” is music to my ears and prompts praise from my heart.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Manner of Meditating

11/16/09
A full measure of the Word and prayer each day (especially Monday for me) gives a healthy and powerful life." --Andrew Murray

Years ago, Nancy Stephenson introduced me to Madame Guyon (1647-1717) through Guyon’s autobiography written while she was being held at the infamous Bastille. Guyon advocated time alone in prayer and meditation. She also taught the Reformation principles of sola gracia (grace alone) and sola fide. (faith alone)

Centuries ago, Guyon espoused the same idea which we have been using each “Meditating Monday.” It’s just encouraging to read it from someone who had a real handle on a timeless truth. (Spiritual Progress
or Instructions in the Divine Life of the Soul 
from the French of Fenelon and Madame Guyon"; 
Printed in 1853; Chapter 2)

Here’s what Madame Guyon had to say:
Meditative reading is the choosing (of) some important practical or speculative truth, always preferring the practical, and proceeding thus: whatever truth you have chosen, read only a small portion of it, endeavoring to taste and digest it, to extract the essence and substance of it, and proceed no farther while any savor or relish remains in the passage: then take up your book again, and proceed as before, seldom reading more than half a page at a time.

It is not the quantity that is read, but the manner of reading, that yields us profit. (Guyon, p.3)

Her “manner of meditating” leads to prayer or prayerful consideration. (My THOTS, exactly---Trusting Him On This Scripture)
When by an act of lively faith, you are placed in the presence of God, read some truth wherein there is substance; pause gently thereon, not to employ the reason, but merely to fix the mind; observing that the principal exercise should ever be the presence of God, and that the subject, therefore, should rather serve to stay the mind, than exercise it in reasoning.

For my people have committed two evils; they have forsaken me the fountain of living waters, and hewed them out cisterns, broken cisterns, that can hold no water. (Jeremiah 2:13, NASB)

Let’s go directly to Him, our Source, for our refreshment. Quit turning to self. Put down those shovels. We’re digging ourselves into a hole. Our cisterns, based on our work, relationships, prestige/credentials, pseudo-power/control and our own strength are so “leaky.” Cisterns of “self” won’t even hold water.

"Come all ye that are athirst to the living waters, nor lose your precious moments in hewing out cisterns that will hold no water.”

Today let’s meditate as Guyon and those faithful ones of past centuries did ---Come ye famishing souls, who find nought to satisfy you; come, and ye shall be filled!

Friday, November 13, 2009

Prayer Proddings

11/13/09 Prayer.....what does it really take to get you moving in this area? I had to ask myself this question? Some of the prompts mentioned earlier seem like prods---cattle prods. You know, the ones that shock you into action. Visible clues. Verbal requests. Pray ‘til you feel like praying is an answer/prod that is often given.

Is it the place that is needed? Anywhere will do. Is it the time? Anytime is good. Is it the position? You can always kneel (bow) in your heart.

Is there a right or wrong way to pray? Is it inadequacy in word choice? “Lord all my desire is before Thee.” (Psalm 38:9) What do words matter if He has the desire of my heart!

Maybe it’s the definition of prayer. Simply put, prayer is an “application of your heart to God.” (A Short & Very Easy
Method of Prayer p.1)

Maybe it’s the viewpoint. View it as a privilege or an opportunity rather than just a command.

Prayers are more than petitions for our “horizontal” lives. Prayers are vertical---upward. Prayers are onward---continual. Prayers are God-ward---for His glory.

To Him who is everywhere, men come, not by traveling but by loving.” (St. Augustine)

My prayer for you is that your praying will become a blessed practice that continues even when you’re not speaking or listening but applying your heart to His in true communion.

No more external prodding will be needed.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

PRAYER PROMPTS... on your agenda

11/12/09 Those e-mails said folks I’ve never met in Germany, Holland and France were praying for me. What prompted those prayers? God’s Spirit? Fellowship with other believers? Hearing a siren yesterday, I prayed---for both the injured/ill one and for his/her loved ones as well. God can certainly use both people and circumstances to prompt prayers. Someone stopping us, in a hallway or at the grocery, and requesting prayer can be a big prompt. Often I have to pray right then or say that I will pray as God leads so that I don’t give a false hope---as this old mind doesn’t hold on to requests as it once did. I know what it’s like to count on others to fervently and earnestly pray. I also know that prayer is so-o-o-o much more than petitions. Yet, I can trust Him enough to pour out my heart, my sorrows and my burdens for others and allow Him to work these according to good.

Michèle’s recent blog, “The Problem with Prayer” states, “It’s a topic I both love and hate to discuss, mostly because it’s so nebulous. And yet…it’s also powerful and life-altering and sanity-preserving.”

There is indeed a deep mystery to prayer. Even knowing that prayer is the span that links us to a holy God can be overwhelming. But what a privilege! Devote yourselves to prayer…” (Colossians 4:2) ”pray for one another.” (James 5:16b) These sound more intentional than just running into people or hearing a siren.

What about intentional prayer prompts? My “agenda” prayer prompts for intercession (praying for others), as many know, are scheduled by day---my former prayer group people are prayed for on the weekday that I was assigned for each of them back in the mid-80s---others have been added to these days, often alliteratively. I keep this list with me in my calendar. I have committed to pray for Sarah Young’s health and her prayer prompt is in my lap each time I read her Jesus Calling book. My Weeping Wednesdays prompt me to pray prayers of confession. My 7:00 Saturday morning is my church prayer time that extends in to prayer for children and grandchildren of friends. My big old prayer chair is a very visible prompt that it's time to pray!

When we have had scheduled prayer times with Him, preceded by being quiet and worshipping God in His glory----then we can, as François Fénelon recommended, “Accustom yourself gradually to carry Prayer into all your daily occupation -- speak, act, work in peace, as if you were in prayer, as indeed you ought to be.”


Without set times of prayer, the spirit of prayer will be dull and feeble. Without the continual prayerfulness, the set times will not avail.--Andrew Murray This sounds like a juxtaposition of planned and unplanned prayers to me.

Spur-of-the-moment prayer prompts. Are you alert to them?
Intentional prayer prompts. What will yours be?

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

PRAYER PROMPTS

11/11/09 Prayer is to be on-going----“pray without ceasing.” (1 Thessalonians 5:17) So how does one do that? What prompts one to pray?

Years ago Mother was on a plane from Nashville to New York and at take-off the passengers were advised that there was a problem and to please assume crash position. The plane then turned sharply heading back to the airport. Immediately Mother began to pray.
Crisis is a great prayer prompt.
Mother said that she felt a real sense of peace as she prayed and was assured that I would take care of Daddy. She lived many years after that chaotic landing. Since her death it has been my brother, Bobby, who is Daddy’s main caregiver. Just remembering that, fills me with gratitude and I begin to pray for Bobby.
Gratitude is also a great prayer prompt.
Today is Veteran’s Day. I am reminded to pray for Daddy and lift praises for my favorite “purple heart” vet.
Holidays and celebrations are great prayer/praise prompts.
The biopsy was positive, your spouse has walked out, the injury resulted in paralysis. (Psalm 119:71)
Affliction is a great prayer prompt.
Amy Carmichael said, “Do we ever bring His own words to Him and find that He turns away? Never.” (Edges of His Ways, p. 204)
Scripture is a great prayer prompt.
Jonathan Edwards (1703-1758) theologian said, “The true spirit of prayer is no other than God's own Spirit dwelling in the hearts of the saints. And as this spirit comes from God, so doth it naturally tend to God in holy breathings and pantings. It naturally leads to God, to converse with him by prayer.
God’s Spirit is a great prayer prompt.
Panic prayers, grateful prayers, fearful prayers, and breath prayers are all links that connect us to God day in and day out. But what about those times when we don’t know how to pray? What to pray? Prompt without the purpose.

26Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. Romans 8:26-27 (ESV)

Perfect prayer from the Perfect Prompter.

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

PRAYER PONDERINGS

11/10/09
Because of technical difficulties with my Word program---probably me---today’s blog just got changed to what I can control by cutting and pasting with minimal typing. Hopefully, “Prayer Prompts” will follow tomorrow.
I have included some prayer quotes by scholars/theologians,---mainly from authors whose writings I have read.

Let me know if any speak to your heart! Or share a new one with me that is meaningful to you. Ponder away…….
  • Some people pray just to pray and some people pray to know God. --Andrew Murray
  • Is prayer your steering wheel or your spare tire? --Corrie Ten Boom
  • We look upon prayer as a means for getting something for ourselves; the Bible idea of prayer is that we may get to know God Himself. --Oswald Chambers
  • To pray is to listen to the One who calls you "my beloved daughter," "my beloved son," "my beloved child." To pray is to let that voice speak to the center of your being, to your guts, and let that voice resound in your whole being. --Henri Nouwen
  • When we sing, 'Draw me nearer, nearer, blessed Lord,' we are not thinking of the nearness of place, but of the nearness of relationship.……We need never shout across the spaces to an absent God. He is nearer than our own soul, closer than our most secret thoughts. --A.W. Tozer
  • In prayer it is better to have a heart without words than words without a heart. --John Bunyan
  • There is not in the world a kind of life more sweet and delightful than that of a continual conversation with God. --Brother Lawrence

Monday, November 9, 2009

3M

11/9/09……… Monday’s meditation musings
“When He was alone with His own disciples, He explained everything.” A Streams in the Desert entry that I read while in Dallas, encouraged the practice of being alone. Sometimes this involves dismissing the crowd just as Jesus did. (See Matt. 14:22.) Even well-meaning people can be a distraction when we’re trying to be alone with Him---seeking more of His dust. (“….until only Jesus was left with the woman still standing there.” John 8:8)

May our (my) soul yearn for, and practice that kind of solitude in times of meditation with Him. May we (I) practice dismissing the crowd. May we (I) “Be still and know”---He is God; (Psa. 46:10)

5 Many, O LORD my God, are the wonders which You have done,
And Your thoughts toward us,
There is none to compare with You
If I would declare and speak of them,
They would be too numerous to count

6 Sacrifice and meal offering You have not desired;

My ears You have opened;
Burnt offering and sin offering You have not required.

7 Then I said, "Behold, I come;

In the scroll of the book it is written of me.

8 I delight to do Your will, O my God;
Your Law is within my heart."

9 I have proclaimed glad tidings of righteousness in the great congregation;
Behold, I will not restrain my lips,
O LORD, You know.

10 I have not hidden Your righteousness within my heart;
I have spoken of Your faithfulness and Your salvation;
I have not concealed Your lovingkindness and Your truth from the great congregation.

11 You, O LORD, will not withhold Your compassion from me;
Your lovingkindness and Your truth will continually preserve me.
(Psalm 40:5-11)

May I practice Thy Presence today---within my practice of solitude---just Me and Thee---heart to heart, beating as one.